Part 4: Harnessing the Power of Mindset: Stop Smoking Now with Help from Hypnotherapy

In 2021 the doctor told Karen’s husband that if he wanted to live for a few more years, he had to make some significant changes in his eating and lifestyle.  That was all Karen needed to hear.  She revamped their eating, changing to homecooked, organic ingredient meals.  They started walking every night.  There was only one more hurdle – she had been a heavy smoker for 35 years.  She had tried to quite smoking before, she wanted to be a good example for her grandsons whom she watched 3 days a week.  She called me, explained the situation and asked if I could help.  Absolutely, I said and we started to work on her smoking.  I used the 3 session protocol I always use:  #1 Get ready to quit and pick a quit date, #2 Quit and #3 Seal in that she will never smoke again. I am happy to report that after three years, Karen is still smoke-free.

This final installment of the mindset series explores the transformative journey of smoking cessation and how hypnotherapy can provide invaluable support in breaking free from nicotine addiction.

Understanding Smoking Cessation Goals: Smoking cessation goals are centered around ending the harmful habit of tobacco use and achieving lasting freedom from nicotine addiction. The most common reasons that people cite to stop smoking include:

1. Health Improvement: Quitting smoking is one of the most significant steps you can take to improve your health and reduce the risk of smoking-related diseases such as cancer, heart disease, and respiratory conditions.

2. Enhanced Quality of Life: Breaking free from nicotine addiction can lead to improvements in physical fitness, energy levels, and overall well-being, enhancing your quality of life and longevity.

3. Financial Savings: Smoking cessation can result in substantial financial savings over time, as you no longer need to spend money on cigarettes or related healthcare costs.

4. Improved Social Relationships: Quitting smoking can lead to improved social interactions and relationships, as you no longer have to worry about the social stigma associated with smoking or exposing others to secondhand smoke.

5. Role Modeling for Others: Quitting smoking can serve as a positive example for friends, family members, and loved ones, inspiring them to prioritize their health and well-being.

The Smoking Cessation Mindset and the Mind-Body Connection:

Your mindset plays a crucial role in your ability to successfully quit smoking and maintain abstinence long-term. Through the mind-body connection, your thoughts, beliefs, and emotions can either support or hinder progress towards your smoking cessation goal. Here are the characteristic attitudes/beliefs associated with negative and positive smoking cessation mindsets:

Negative Smoking Cessation Mindset:

1. Fear of Withdrawal Symptoms: Anticipating withdrawal symptoms such as cravings, irritability, and anxiety, leading to avoidance of quitting or relapse.

2. Self-Doubt and Lack of Confidence: Doubting your ability to quit smoking successfully or maintain abstinence long-term, leading to self-sabotage and relapse.

3. Identification with Smoking Identity: Viewing smoking as an integral part of your identity or coping mechanism, making it challenging to envision life without cigarettes.

4. Negative Self-Talk: Engaging in negative self-talk or self-criticism related to past quit attempts or perceived lack of willpower, undermining motivation and resilience.

5. Social and Environmental Triggers: You feel triggered to smoke in social situations or environments associated with smoking, increasing your vulnerability to relapse.

Positive Smoking Cessation Mindset:

1. Commitment to Health and Well-Being:  You prioritize your health and well-being as primary motivators for quitting smoking and you embrace a proactive approach to self-care and longevity.

2. Belief in Personal Agency: Believing in your ability to quit smoking successfully and overcome challenges fosters confidence and determination.

3. Reframing Smoking Narratives: You challenge the narrative that smoking is pleasurable or beneficial and understand that cigarettes are toxic substances that undermine health and vitality.

4. Social Support and Accountability: You accept support from friends, family, or support groups and hold yourself accountable for your no smoking goal, fostering a sense of community and encouragement.

5. Celebrating Milestones and Progress: You celebrate milestones and progress along the quit journey, reinforcing motivation and resilience in the face of challenges.

Hypnotherapy for Smoking Cessation Mindset Transformation:

Hypnotherapy offers a unique approach to transforming the smoking cessation mindset, addressing underlying beliefs and emotions that may be perpetuating nicotine addiction. Through techniques such as relaxation, visualization, and suggestion, hypnotherapy can help you to:

• Reduce cravings and withdrawal symptoms associated with nicotine dependence.

• Overcome limiting beliefs and negative thought patterns related to smoking cessation.

• Reinforce positive motivations and intentions for quitting smoking.

• Develop coping strategies for managing triggers, stress, and emotional cravings.

• Cultivate a deep-seated commitment to health and well-being, paving the way for long-term smoking cessation success.

Summary:

By harnessing the power of the subconscious mind, hypnotherapy empowers you to break free from the grip of nicotine addiction and embrace a smoke-free lifestyle.

Working together with your hypnotherapist using proven, researched based hypnotherapy techniques in a series of hypnosis and counseling sessions, you can discover/clarify your general physical health mindset and specific beliefs and concerns about your current smoking habits, establish and prioritize your no smoking goals, envision the thoughts, feelings and activities of an updated mindset that supports your goals, craft customized personal affirmations in alignment with your updated mindset, and  establish a daily affirmations and gratitude practice that reinforces your mindset, celebrates progress and propels you toward successful achievement of our your specific np smoking goal.

If you are considering working with me as your hypnotherapist, I am available for a free 30 minute consultation for new clients. Please call me at 818-929-4944 or go to cindaroffman.com to book a free consultation.

Sincerely,

Cinda

HypnoNews and Resources

 For a more detailed article that asks questions like why is it so hard to stop smoking, please see the following:

https://www.mindsethealth.com/matter/stop-smoking-hypnosis

Part 3: Harnessing the Power of Mindset: Better Sleep with Help from Hypnotherapy

Most adults have had a sleepless night or a ‘didn’t sleep well last night’ experience at one time or another. This experience can be simply a passing annoyance. However, for some of you, frequent or chronic insomnia can be a debilitating problem with significant mental and physical health implications.

Juanita had done an excellent job of training herself to get by on 3 (yes, 3!) hours of sleep a night.  She was a young mother, working part time and going to school.  She literally believed that she had no time to sleep.  10 years later, her son (and now daughter as well) were 8 and 10 and she wanted to sleep more and better.  Could I help? Of course I could.

First of all, we talked about her goals and how important getting a better night’s sleep was to her.  She felt that at her age, she needed more sleep.  Her goal was 7-8 hours a night.  The first thing we did was come up with a set of affirmations changing her mindset about sleep.  Instead of “I won’t be able to sleep more than 3 hours tonight,” we changed her self-talk to “I easily get 8 hours of sleep every night.”  In hypnosis, she was really relaxed for the first time in a long time.  I encouraged her to listen to the recording of her hypnosis session as she was falling asleep so she would be very relaxed.  Each time she listened to the recording she reinforced that feeling of complete relaxation.  Soon, she was sleeping 7-8 hours every night.

After your first few hypnotherapy sessions, you may also feel like you have had a ‘good night’s sleep’ for the first time in weeks, months, or even years. You fell asleep easily, slept through the night, and woke up in the morning feeling alert and refreshed.

This third installment of the series explores the critical role of mindset in achieving better sleep and how hypnotherapy can be a transformative tool in overcoming sleep-related challenges.

Understanding Sleep Goals:

Quality sleep is essential for overall health and well-being, yet many individuals struggle with sleep-related issues. The five most common reasons people set sleep goals are:

1. Improved Health and Vitality: Adequate sleep is crucial for physical and mental health, supporting immune function, cognitive performance, and emotional well-being.

2. Enhanced Productivity and Performance: Quality sleep promotes alertness, concentration, and productivity, facilitating success in work, school, and daily activities.

3. Stress Reduction and Relaxation: Deep, restorative sleep helps you reduce stress levels, promote relaxation, and recharge your body and mind for the day ahead.

4. Emotional Regulation: Sleep plays a vital role in emotional regulation, helping you manage mood swings, irritability, and emotional reactivity.

5. Disease Prevention: Chronic sleep deprivation has been linked to an increased risk of various health conditions, including obesity, diabetes, heart disease, and depression.

The Sleep Mindset and the Mind-Body Connection:

Your mindset profoundly influences your sleep quality and patterns. Through the mind-body connection, your thoughts, beliefs, and emotions can impact sleep onset, duration, and overall sleep quality. Here are the attitudes/beliefs associated with negative and positive sleep mindsets:

Negative Sleep Mindset:

1. Catastrophic Thinking: You dwell on worst-case scenarios or potential sleep disturbances, leading to anxiety and heightened arousal.

2. Sleep Avoidance Behaviors: You engage in activities that disrupt sleep, such as excessive screen time, caffeine consumption, or irregular sleep schedules.

3. Hyperarousal: Heightened vigilance or arousal before bedtime, makes it difficult for you to relax and fall asleep.

4. Clock Watching: Obsessively monitoring the clock and calculating how much sleep you will get, leading to increased stress and sleep disturbance.

5. Daytime Sleep Anxiety: You worry about the consequences of poor sleep or feeling anxious about not getting enough rest, perpetuating a cycle of sleep-related stress.

Positive Sleep Mindset:

1. Relaxation and Acceptance: You embrace relaxation techniques and accept sleep variability, letting go of perfectionism and sleep-related worries.

2. Establishing Sleep Hygiene: You prioritize sleep hygiene practices including a consistent sleep schedule, a relaxing bedtime routine, and a comfortable sleep environment.

3. Mindfulness and Present Moment Awareness: You learn and practice ways  to stay present and grounded, reducing pre-sleep rumination and anxiety.

4. Trust in the Body's Ability to Sleep: You are confident in your body's natural ability to regulate sleep and restore balance, fostering a sense of ease and trust in the sleep process.

5. Gratitude and Positive Outlook: You practice gratitude and focus on positive aspects of the day, promoting relaxation and emotional well-being conducive to restful sleep.

Hypnotherapy for Sleep Mindset Transformation:

Hypnotherapy offers a unique approach to transforming your sleep mindset, addressing underlying beliefs and emotions that may be contributing to sleep-related challenges. Through techniques such as guided imagery, progressive relaxation, and hypnotic suggestion, hypnotherapy can help you:

• Reduce pre-sleep anxiety and hyperarousal.

• Cultivate a calm and relaxed state conducive to sleep onset.

• Overcome sleep-related fears and negative thought patterns.

• Enhance sleep quality and duration through subconscious reprogramming.

• Develop healthy sleep habits and routines to support long-term sleep success.

Summary:

By harnessing the power of the subconscious mind, hypnotherapy empowers you to align your mindset with your sleep goals, paving the way for restorative and rejuvenating sleep.

Working together with your hypnotherapist using proven hypnotherapy techniques in a series of hypnosis and counseling sessions, you can discover/clarify your general sleep health mindset and specific beliefs and concerns about your current sleep hygiene, establish and prioritize your sleep goals, envision the thoughts, feelings and activities of an updated mindset that supports your goals, craft customized personal affirmations in alignment with your updated sleep mindset, and  establish a daily affirmations and gratitude practice that reinforces your mindset, celebrates progress and propels you toward successful achievement of our your specific sleep goals.

If you are considering working with me as your hypnotherapist, I am available for a free 30 minute consultation for new clients. Please call me at 818-929-4944 or go to cindaroffman.com to book a free consultation.

Stay tuned for Part 4: Harnessing the Power of Mindset: Stop Smoking Now with Help from Hypnotherapy, where we turn our focus to smoking cessation goals and explore how hypnotherapy can support you in breaking free from nicotine addiction and you can delve into the transformative potential of mindset in achieving smoking cessation with the help of hypnotherapy.

Sincerely,

Cinda

HypnoNews and Resources

One man’s personal, post pandemic story that you might relate to:

I Tried Everything to Cure My Insomnia. This Is What Finally Worked.

 https://www.yogajournal.com/lifestyle/hypnosis-for-insomnia/

For the research minded:

Hypnosis Intervention Effects on Sleep Outcomes: A Systematic Review

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5786848/

Part 2: Harnessing the Power of Mindset: Achieving Weight Loss Goals with Hypnotherapy

The first time I tried hypnotherapy, I was desperate.  I had tried everything to lose weight after the birth of my third child.  Nothing worked.  A friend told me about hypnotherapy and I thought, “Why not?”  After explaining about how hypnotherapy worked and asking me about my goals, the kind and gentle hypnotherapist told me to relax in his big, overstuffed recliner.  I don’t remember much else about the session.

When I got home and started to make dinner that night, there was a definite shift in my mindset.  I knew I wanted to eat healthier and wasn’t tempted by the chicken nuggets and grilled cheese I made for the children.  The next morning, I woke up early and got dressed to go walking.  As I was tying my shoes, I realized that there had been a definite shift in my thoughts.  I was hooked.  I continued hypnotherapy for a while, lost 15 lbs. and was healthier all around because of my walking.

Can hypnotherapy help you change your mindset, eating and exercise habits to support reaching your health and weight loss goals? Definitely, that’s what it is all about.

Weight loss goals are among the most common health objectives you may strive to achieve. This segment of the series explores the intricate relationship between mindset and weight loss, and how hypnotherapy can be a powerful tool in supporting you on your weight loss journey.

Understanding Weight Loss Goals:

Weight loss goals vary in nature and scope, ranging from short-term objectives to long-term lifestyle changes. Common reasons for setting weight loss goals include:

• Health Improvement: You may seek to lose weight to improve overall health, manage chronic conditions like diabetes or hypertension, or reduce the risk of cardiovascular disease.

• Appearance Enhancement: Weight loss goals are often motivated by a desire to enhance physical appearance, boost self-esteem, and feel more confident in your body.

• Fitness and Performance: You may set weight loss goals to enhance athletic performance, increase stamina, or achieve specific fitness milestones.

• Disease Prevention: Weight loss can play a crucial role in preventing obesity-related health conditions such as joint pain, sleep apnea, and certain cancers.

The Weight Loss Mindset and the Mind-Body Connection:

Your weight loss mindset plays a pivotal role in determining your success in achieving weight loss goals. Through the mind-body connection, your thoughts, beliefs, and emotions (mindset) can either support or hinder progress towards your weight loss objectives. Here are some attitudes/beliefs associated with negative and positive weight loss mindsets:

Negative Weight Loss Mindset:

• All-or-Nothing Thinking: Believing that any deviation from a strict diet or exercise regimen constitutes failure, leading to feelings of guilt and self-sabotage.

• Self-Criticism and Shame: Engaging in negative self-talk and self-criticism based on perceived body flaws or past weight loss failures.

• External Validation: Seeking validation and approval from others based on physical appearance, leading to a reliance on external factors for self-worth.

• Fear of Failure: Anticipating failure or setbacks before embarking on a weight loss journey, leading to avoidance of challenges and opportunities for growth.

• Lack of Self-Efficacy: Doubting your ability to make lasting changes and achieve weight loss goals, undermining motivation and commitment.

Positive Weight Loss Mindset:

• Self-Compassion and Acceptance: Practicing self-compassion and acceptance of your body, embracing the journey towards health and well-being without judgment.

• Goal Orientation: Focusing on specific, achievable goals and milestones, celebrating your progress rather than fixating on perfection.

• Intrinsic Motivation: Finding inner motivation and satisfaction in the process of improving health and well-being, independent of external validation.

• Resilience and Adaptability: Embracing setbacks as opportunities for learning and growth, maintaining a positive outlook in the face of challenges.

• Self-Efficacy and Empowerment: Cultivating a belief in your ability to make meaningful changes, taking ownership of your health and well-being journey.

Hypnotherapy for Weight Loss Mindset Transformation:

Hypnotherapy offers a unique approach to transforming the weight loss mindset, addressing underlying beliefs and emotions that may be impeding progress. Through techniques such as guided imagery, cognitive restructuring, and positive suggestion, hypnotherapy can help you:

• Overcome limiting beliefs and self-sabotaging thought patterns.

• Cultivate a positive and empowered mindset towards diet, nutrition, exercise and weight loss.

• Enhance your motivation and commitment to healthy lifestyle changes.

• Develop coping strategies for managing cravings, emotional eating, and stress.

• Establish a supportive internal dialogue and self-care practices to sustain your long-term success.

Summary:

By harnessing the power of the subconscious mind, hypnotherapy empowers you to align your mindset with your weight loss goals, paving the way for sustainable health and well-being.

Working together with your hypnotherapist using proven hypnotherapy techniques in a series of hypnosis and counseling sessions, you can discover/clarify your general physical health mindset and specific beliefs and concerns about your current weight, establish and prioritize your weight loss goals, envision the thoughts, feelings and activities of an updated mindset that supports your goals, craft customized personal affirmations in alignment with your updated weight loss mindset, and  establish a daily affirmations and gratitude practice that reinforces your mindset, celebrates progress and propels you toward successful achievement of our your specific wealth loss goals.

If you are considering working with me as your hypnotherapist, I am available for a free 30 minute consultation for new clients. Please call me at 818-929-4944 or go to cindaroffman.com to book a free consultation.

Stay tuned for Part 3: Harnessing the Power of Mindset: Better Sleep with Help from Hypnotherapy, where we shift our focus to the importance of quality sleep in achieving optimal physical health and explore how hypnotherapy can support individuals in overcoming sleep-related challenges. Join us as we delve into the transformative potential of mindset in achieving better sleep with the help of hypnotherapy..

Sincerely,

CInda

HypnoNews and Resources

For an excellent article about one person’s weight loss journey and her successful experience with hypnotherapy after all else failed to help her reach her goals, please see the following:

https://clarity-hypnosis.com/hypnosis-thing-thats-helped-lose-weight/

Part 1: Harnessing the Power of Mindset: Transforming Your Physical Health with Hypnotherapy

In the pursuit of optimal physical health, the role of mindset cannot be underestimated. Our thoughts, beliefs, and attitudes profoundly influence our actions and behaviors, ultimately shaping our health outcomes. This four-part series will delve into specific health goals, from weight loss to better sleep and smoking cessation, uncovering the transformative potential of mindset in achieving optimal well-being. On this journey you will find the keys to vibrant health and vitality through the power of the mind-body connection and hypnotherapy techniques.

This first installment of the series explores the foundational role of mindset in shaping physical health outcomes. From understanding mindsets to unlocking the mind-body connection, we lay the groundwork for harnessing the transformative power of hypnotherapy in achieving vibrant health and well-being. 

Understanding Mindsets and Their Impact on Health

Mindsets are the deeply ingrained attitudes and beliefs that shape our perceptions, behaviors, and ultimately, our outcomes. Physical health mindsets encompass attitudes, beliefs, and expectations related to our physical well-being. They can either propel us towards success or hinder our progress.   Positive health mindsets can foster resilience, motivation, and proactive health behaviors, while negative mindsets may lead to self-sabotage, disengagement, and poor health outcomes. Here are some typical attitudes/beliefs associated with negative and positive health mindsets:

Negative Health Mindset:

• Fixed Mindset: Believing that health conditions are predetermined and unchangeable, leading to feelings of hopelessness and resignation.

• Victim Mentality: Blaming external factors or genetics for health issues, neglecting personal responsibility and agency in improving one's well-being.

• All -or-Nothing Thinking: Viewing healthbehaviors as either perfect or flawed, leading to cycles of strict adherence followed by self-sabotage.

• Instant Gratification: Seeking quick fixes or fad diets rather than committing to sustainable lifestyle changes, leading to frustration and disappointment.

• Fear of Failure: Avoiding health-related challenges or opportunities for growth due to a fear of falling short or not meeting expectations.

Positive Health Mindset:

• Growth Mindset: Embracing the belief that health is dynamic and can be improved through effort, perseverance, and learning from setbacks

• Ownership and Empowerment: Taking personal responsibility for health outcomes, actively seeking information, and making informed choices to promote well-being

• Flexibility and Adaptability: Embracing change and viewing setbacks as opportunities for growth, adjusting strategies as needed to maintain progress

• Long-Term Perspective: Prioritizing sustainable habits and lifestyle changes over quick fixes, recognizing that health is a lifelong journey

• Resilience and Optimism: Cultivating resilience in the face of challenges, maintaining a positive outlook, and believing in one's ability to overcome obstacles.

The Mind-Body Connection

The mind-body connection refers to the intricate relationship between our thoughts, emotions, beliefs, and physical health. Neuroscience has revealed that the brain and body are interconnected, with thoughts and emotions influencing physiological processes and vice versa. Here's a closer look at the mind-body connection and where neuroscience fits into our understanding:

1. Neuroplasticity: The brain's ability to reorganize and adapt in response to experiences, thoughts, and behaviors. Through neuroplasticity, we can reshape neural pathways associated with health behaviors and beliefs

2. Stress Response: The brain's response to stress triggers physiological changes in the body, such as increased heart rate, blood pressure, and cortisol levels. Chronic stress can negatively impact immune function, metabolism, and overall health

3. Emotional Regulation: The brain plays a central role in regulating emotions, with the limbic system and prefrontal cortex governing emotional responses and decision-making processes. Hypnotherapy techniques can help modulate emotional responses and promote emotional well-being

4. Placebo Effect: The phenomenon where the belief in a treatment or intervention leads to positive health outcomes, even if the treatment itself is inert. This underscores the power of mindset in influencing physical health and healing.

Practices such as meditation, mindfulness, and hypnotherapy leverage the mind-body connection to promote relaxation, stress reduction, and overall well-being. These interventions have been shown to improve immune function, pain management, and recovery from illness.

How Hypnotherapy Works

Hypnotherapy is a therapeutic modality that utilizes guided relaxation, focused attention, and suggestion to access the subconscious mind. By inducing a trance-like state, hypnotherapy bypasses the critical faculty of the conscious mind, allowing for direct communication with the subconscious. Through tailored interventions and suggestions, your hypnotherapist can help you to facilitate mindset shifts, reframe limiting beliefs, and instill positive thought patterns conducive to physical health and well-being.

Transforming Your Physical Health with Hypnotherapy

1. Identifying Limiting Beliefs: Hypnotherapy begins with identifying and addressing underlying limiting beliefs that may hinder progress towards physical health goals. These beliefs may include doubts about your ability to change, fear of failure, or past experiences that reinforce negative associations with health behaviors

2. Reprogramming Thought Patterns: Through hypnotic suggestion and visualization techniques, hypnotherapy helps reprogram thought patterns to support positive health behaviors and attitudes. You are guided to envision yourself as healthy, vibrant and capable of achieving your wellness goals with confidence and determination

3. Cultivating Motivation and Commitment: Hypnotherapy instills a sense of motivation and commitment to health goals by aligning subconscious desires with conscious intentions. You can tap into your inner resources, intrinsic motivations and values that drive sustainable lifestyle changes

4. Managing Stress and Resilience: Stress management is integral to physical health, as chronic stress can undermine immune function and exacerbate health conditions. Hypnotherapy equips you with relaxation techniques, coping strategies, and resilience-building skills to navigate stressors effectively and maintain balance in daily life

5. Enhancing Self-Care Practices: Hypnotherapy encourages the adoption of self-care practices that promote physical health and well-being, such as regular exercise, nutritious eating habits, adequate sleep, and stress reduction activities. You develop a deeper appreciation for self-care as an essential aspect of holistic health.

 Summary

In harnessing the power of mindset, hypnotherapy offers a transformative path to achieving optimal physical health and well-being. By addressing underlying beliefs, reprogramming thought patterns, and cultivating motivation, hypnotherapy empowers you to embark on a journey of self-discovery, resilience, and vitality. Through the integration of mind-body techniques, you can unlock your innate potential for vibrant health and embrace a life of vitality and wellness.

Working together with your hypnotherapist using proven hypnotherapy techniques in a series of hypnosis and counseling sessions, you can discover/clarify your general physical health mindset and specific beliefs about your current concerns/issues, establish and prioritize your physical health goals, envision the thoughts, feelings and activities of an updated mindset that supports your goals, craft customized personal affirmations in alignment your updated mindset, and  establish a daily affirmations and gratitude practice that reinforces your physical health mindset and propels you toward successful achievement of our your specific physical health goals.

If you are considering working with me as your hypnotherapist, I am available for a free 30 minute consultation for new clients. Please call me at 818-929-4944 or go to cindaroffman.com to book a free consultation.

Stay tuned for Part 2: Harnessing the Power of Mindset: Achieving Weight Loss Goals with Hypnotherapy, where we delve into the intricacies of weight loss mindset and the transformative potential of hypnotherapy in achieving sustainable weight loss.

Sincerely,

Cinda

HypnoNews and Resources

 For an excellent article the mind-body connection including historical roots, scientific basis, impact on overall health and well-being, and mind-body therapies, please see the following:

 https://mnclinicforhealth.com/understanding-the-mind-body-connection-a-comprehensive-guide/

After the Breakup: Healing, Letting Go, and Moving On

In the beginning, she only drove by her ex-boyfriend’s house once a day, then it was twice a day.  The breakup had been painful and quite one-sided. When she began picking up her daughter after school, she changed her route and it became 3 times a day.  That was when she called me.  She was happily married but still felt anger, resentment and anxiety about what her ex might be up to.  Could I help her stop obsessing over her ex and not need to drive by several times a day?  Yes, I could. As we worked together through a series of hypnotherapy sessions she was able to uncover and better understand the roots of her obsessive habit and she let go of the feeling of wanting to know what her ex was doing.  She was relieved, happy, and ready to get on with her own life.

Breakups, whether from a dating relationship or a marriage, can be emotionally and physically taxing experiences. In this article, I explore the depths of post-breakup challenges and how hypnotherapy techniques can aid you in healing, letting go, and moving forward in your life. From understanding the nature of interpersonal relationships to addressing the psychological and physical aftermath of a breakup, we uncover the transformative power of hypnotherapy in facilitating the journey towards recovery and emotional well-being.

Understanding Interpersonal Human Relationships:

Interpersonal relationships are dynamic connections between individuals, characterized by mutual understanding, communication, and shared experiences. Dating relationships involve romantic connections, while marriage relationships signify deeper commitments and shared life paths.

Defining Characteristics of Dating and Marriage Relationships:

• Dating Relationships are defined by mutual attraction, companionship, and shared interests. They typically involve less commitment compared to marriage, allowing for more flexibility and exploration.

• Marriage Relationships are marked by legal and emotional commitment, shared goals, and life partnership.  They often involve deeper levels of intimacy, trust, and long-term planning.

Breakup statistics in America:

According to recent studies, approximately 40-50% of marriages in the United States end in divorce. Breakup rates in dating relationships vary, with factors such as age, duration, and commitment level influencing the likelihood of separation.

Common Reasons for Breakups: Couples may break up for a single reason or a combination of several problems that the relationship just can’t seem to overcome. Some of the more prevalent reasons for breakups are:

• Communication breakdown and conflict.

• Infidelity and trust issues.

• Incompatibility in values or life goals.

• · Financial stress and disagreements.

• Emotional neglect or abuse.

• Substance abuse or addiction issues.

• Growing apart or loss of attraction.

Top 10 Issues and Problems that You May Experience After a Breakup:

1. Emotional pain and grief.

2. Loss of identity and self-esteem.

3. Anxiety and depression.

4. Social isolation and loneliness.

5. Anger and resentment towards the ex-partner.

6. Fear of future relationships or commitment.

7. Financial strain and instability.

8. Physical symptoms such as sleep disturbances or appetite changes.

9. Obsessive thoughts and rumination.

10. Difficulty letting go of memories or possessions associated with the relationship.

Importance and Benefits of Getting Help:

When a client comes to me after a breakup they are often wrestling with a variety of difficult psychological and physical issues. In one way or another they are in pain, suffering and struggling to heal, let go and move forward in their life. Seeking professional support after a breakup can significantly aid in the healing process. Therapeutic intervention provides a safe space for you to process the emotions, gain insights, and develop coping strategies to navigate the challenges of separation.

Hypnotherapy Techniques for Healing, Letting Go, and Moving On

1.      Positive Affirmations: Instill self-compassion, confidence, and resilience, reinforcing a positive self-image and outlook on the future.

2.      Visualization and Guided Imagery: Create mental imagery of releasing emotional baggage and embracing a fresh start, promoting inner peace and acceptance.

3.      Anxiety Reduction Techniques: Address anxiety and stress associated with the breakup, facilitating relaxation and emotional stability.

4.      Ego Strengthening: Build inner strength and self-reliance, empowering individuals to overcome feelings of vulnerability and dependency.

5.      Goal Setting and Motivation Enhancement: Define personal goals and aspirations post-breakup, fostering a sense of purpose and direction.

6.      Forgiveness Work: Facilitate forgiveness towards oneself and the ex-partner, releasing bitterness and resentment to make room for healing.

How These Techniques Work

Hypnotherapy techniques work by accessing the subconscious mind, where deep-seated beliefs, emotions, and patterns are stored. By tapping into this realm, you can reframe negative thought patterns, process unresolved emotions, and cultivate inner resources for healing and growth. Through guided therapeutic interventions, you can embark on a transformative journey towards emotional liberation and renewed self-discovery.

Navigating life after a breakup can be a daunting journey filled with emotional upheaval and uncertainty. However, with the support and guidance of a professional hypnotherapist, you can find solace, healing, and ultimately, the resilience to embrace new beginnings and forge a brighter future ahead.

If you are considering working with me as your hypnotherapist, I am available for a free 30 minute consultation for new clients. Please call me at 818-929-4944 or go to cindaroffman.com to book a free consultation.

Sincerely,

Cinda

HypnoNews and Resources

The article below is a fascinating and informative research report entitled “Making Sense and Moving On: The Potential for Individual and Interpersonal Growth Following Emerging Adult Breakups”. The study involved 160 participants, ages 20- 25. It assesses the key aspects of romantic relationship dissolution in emerging adulthood as predictors of future mental health.

 https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6051550/

 For a broad global perspective on breakup statistics including dating and marriage relationships and the variety of factors that influence these breakups, please see the following:

 https://www.allohealth.care/healthfeed/sex-education/relationship-breakup-statistics

Looking For Love? Start With Yourself! Use Hypnotherapy As Your Guide.

My client did not know she was looking for love. Michelle came to me to lose 20 pounds.  She was in her late sixties, divorced with adult children.  As we talked, she said she would like to be in a relationship, but felt unattractive carrying the extra weight.  After working together, she lost the 20 pounds and had a different outlook on life.  She was happy with herself, maybe even loved herself, and was ready to look for a relationship.  We crafted the affirmation, “I am open to a positive, healthy, loving relationship.”  Guess what?  In a few weeks, she found her new someone and is now in a happy, healthy relationship.

Embarking on the journey to find new love is a transformative and exciting chapter in life. However, before seeking external connections, it's essential to turn the focus inward. In this article, we explore the profound connection between readiness, self-love, and attracting new love relationships. Discover the power of self-care practices, delve into the 5-stage theory of change, and understand how hypnotherapy serves as a guiding light on this extraordinary journey.

The 5-Stage Theory of Change: Before any significant life change, individuals often undergo a process that psychologist Prochaska termed the 5-stage theory of change. The stages are pre-contemplation, contemplation, preparation, action, and maintenance. The readiness to act stage, marked by a genuine intention to make a change, is the crucial precursor to finding new love.

Self-love is the cornerstone of a healthy and fulfilling life. It involves recognizing and appreciating one's worth, acknowledging personal needs, and treating oneself with kindness and compassion. In the context of finding new love, self-love becomes a magnetic force that enhances attractiveness and sets the stage for meaningful connections.

Examples of Self-Care Activities: Self-love is manifested through intentional self-care practices. These activities nourish the mind, body, and soul, fostering a sense of well-being and contentment. Examples include:

1.            Mindful Practices:  Meditation, deep breathing exercises, and mindfulness practices promote mental clarity and emotional balance.

2.            Physical Well-Being:  Regular exercise, nutritious eating habits, and sufficient sleep contribute to overall physical health and vitality.

3.            Creative Expression:  Engaging in activities that spark creativity and self-expression, such as art, writing, or music, fosters a sense of fulfillment.

4.            Setting Boundaries: Learning to say no when necessary and setting healthy boundaries preserves energy and promotes emotional resilience.

Positive self-care practices reinforce self-love in a continuous loop. As individuals prioritize their well-being, they cultivate a positive self-image and a deep sense of fulfillment. This, in turn, enhances attractiveness, creating a magnetic pull for potential new love relationships.

Hypnotherapy's Role in the Journey to New Love:

1.            Building Readiness:  Hypnotherapy assists individuals in navigating the readiness stage by addressing any subconscious barriers or fears that may hinder the pursuit of new love.

2.            Enhancing Self-Love: Through positive affirmations and guided imagery, hypnotherapy reinforces self-love, fostering a deep and lasting sense of worthiness.

3.            Transformative Mindset: Hypnotherapy helps individuals cultivate a mindset aligned with positive change, enabling them to approach the journey to new love with confidence and optimism.

4.            Stress Reduction and Emotional Resilience: Techniques such as stress reduction and emotional resilience building equip individuals with the tools to navigate the inevitable challenges of seeking new love.

5.            Visualization for Attraction: Hypnotherapy incorporates visualization techniques to help individuals visualize and manifest the qualities they seek in a new love relationship, creating a powerful magnetism.

As your hypnotherapist I can serve as an experienced guide on this transformative journey. Through tailored sessions, I provide support, tools, and insights to help you overcome obstacles, build readiness, and cultivate the self-love necessary for attracting and sustaining fulfilling new love relationships.

As you set forth on the path to find new love, remember that the most potent catalyst for meaningful connections lies within—ready yourself, practice self-love, and let hypnotherapy be your trusted guide on this extraordinary journey of transformation and love.

If you are considering working with me as your hypnotherapist, I am available for a free 30 minute consultation for new clients. Please call me at 818-929-4944 or go to cindaroffman.com to book a free consultation.

Sincerely,

Cinda

HypnoNews and Resources

Once you find and are enjoying your new someone, you might begin to think about the longer term. For an excellent article exploring the importance of compatibility for long term relationships, please see the following:

https://www.verywellmind.com/signs-you-and-your-partner-compatible-7562809/

Part 4: Ready-Set-Go: Achieving and Sustaining New Year's Resolutions With Your Hypnotherapist's Support

Jeff began his New Year’s Resolution journey on his own with no blueprint and no support. He was recently diagnosed with type 2 diabetes and he needed to make changes in his diet and exercise practices to feel better and sustain his health. Using mostly will power he managed to achieve his target A1c level by mid-year. However, in late fall, cold weather and the onset of the holiday season’s food fests were challenging Jeff’s outdoor exercise practices and his diet.  He came to me for hypnotherapy help. We discussed the 5 stages of change theory and noted that he seemed to be at stage 5 (maintenance) in his journey. Following the blueprint for transformative resolutions with scheduled hypnotherapy follow-up support, we reviewed his goals, addressed his current challenges, planned and celebrated his success in maintaining his target A1c levels through out the winter and into spring of the next new year.

Part 4: Blueprint for Transformative Resolutions: Achieve and Sustain

In this final installment of our series, we lay out a comprehensive blueprint for your transformative journey toward achieving and sustaining your New Year's resolutions. This blueprint, informed by the synergy of readiness, SMART goals, hypnotherapy, positive affirmations, and visualization, guides you through each step of the resolution and maintenance process.

The Importance of Readiness to Change: Revisiting the Foundation

As we embark on crafting a transformative blueprint, it's crucial to revisit the cornerstone—readiness. The 5 stages of change theory, encompassing precontemplation to maintenance, underscores the evolution of readiness. Here's how it aligns with the blueprint:

• Readiness as a Driving Force: Throughout the transformative journey, readiness acts as a driving force. Revisit your initial commitment to change during moments of challenge, anchoring yourself in the firm foundation of readiness.

• Continual Growth: Recognize that readiness is not a one-time event but a continual process. Embrace the evolving nature of readiness as you progress through the stages of change.

Crafting SMART Resolutions: Building Clear Pathways

Building upon the foundation of readiness, SMART resolutions serve as the navigational markers on your journey. Each component of SMART contributes to a clear and achievable path:

• Specificity: Specific resolutions create clarity. Instead of a vague goal, articulate the specifics of what you aim to achieve. For instance, replace "exercise more" with "Walk an average of 11,600 steps per day every week."

• Measurability: Measurable criteria allow for progress tracking. Establish quantifiable metrics, ensuring that you can celebrate achievements and adjust strategies as needed.

• Achievability: Set goals that are realistic and attainable. While ambition is commendable, ensure that your resolutions align with your current capabilities, fostering a sense of accomplishment.

• Relevance: Align resolutions with your values and long-term objectives. A relevant goal resonates with personal aspirations, maintaining intrinsic motivation throughout the journey.

• Time-Boundedness: Establishing time frames adds a sense of urgency. Setting deadlines for milestones and overall achievement enhances focus and time management.

Building A Daily Affirmation Practice: Reinforcing Positivity

With SMART resolutions in place, the next step is to reinforce positivity through a daily affirmation practice. Positive affirmations become the motivational fuel that sustains your resolution journey:

• Consistency is Key: Regularly repeat affirmations to instill positive beliefs. Consistency deepens the impact of affirmations on the subconscious mind.

• Alignment with Goals: Craft affirmations that align seamlessly with your SMART resolutions. The synergy between positive affirmations and specific goals amplifies motivation.

• Morning Rituals: Incorporate affirmations into your morning routine. Starting the day with positive thoughts sets a constructive tone for the hours ahead.

• Evening Reflections: Conclude the day by listening to your hypnotherapy recording. Write your affirmations and what you are grateful for in your journal just before bedtime.

Adding a Gratitude Practice: Fostering Fulfillment

Gratitude, a powerful emotion, is an integral component of the blueprint. Cultivating gratitude enhances fulfillment, resilience, and overall well-being.

• Daily Gratitude Journaling: Dedicate time each day to journaling three things you are grateful for. This practice shifts focus to positive aspects, fostering a grateful mindset.

• Expressing Gratitude: Beyond personal reflections, express gratitude to others. This could be through notes, messages, or acts of kindness, deepening interpersonal connections.

• Gratitude as a Resilience Tool: During challenging moments in your resolution journey, revisit your gratitude journal. The positive emotions associated with gratitude act as a resilience tool.

Scheduled Follow-Up Sessions: Ensuring Sustained Success

The blueprint's final touch involves scheduled follow-up sessions with your hypnotherapist. These sessions play a pivotal role in refining goals, addressing challenges, and ensuring sustained success:

• Goal Review: Regularly review your SMART resolutions with your hypnotherapist. Adjust goals based on progress, challenges, and evolving priorities.

• Addressing Challenges: Use follow-up sessions to discuss any challenges encountered. Hypnotherapy provides a supportive space to explore and overcome obstacles.

• Celebrating Milestones: Acknowledge and celebrate achievements during follow-up sessions. Recognizing progress reinforces positive behavior and motivates continued effort.

Summary:

 As you embark on your transformative journey armed with the blueprint—rooted in readiness, guided by SMART resolutions, reinforced by daily affirmations and gratitude, and supported by follow-up sessions—remember that resolutions are not just about achievement but a journey of continuous growth. The synergy of these elements ensures that your resolutions not only endure but flourish, fostering a life of purpose and fulfillment.

Closing Thoughts

With the transformative blueprint in hand, you are poised to make this year your most impactful yet. The combination of clarity, positivity, gratitude, and ongoing support sets the stage for resolutions that go beyond mere accomplishment—they become a pathway to a more vibrant and fulfilling life. Ready, set, go—your transformative journey awaits.

If you are considering working with me as your hypnotherapist, I am available for a free 30 minute consultation for new clients. Please call me at 818-929-4944 or go to cindaroffman.com to book a free consultation.

Sincerely,

Cinda

HypnoNews and Resources

A research study in 2020 investigated what resolutions people make when they are free to formulate them, whether different resolutions reach differing success rates, and whether it is possible to increase the likelihood of a resolution’s success through various types of support. Participants were placed in three groups: active control, some support, and extended support. At a one year follow-up, the group that got some support was “exclusively and significantly” more successful. Read the study here:

https://doi.org/10.1371/journal.pone.0234097

Part 3 - Ready-Set-Go: Achieving and Sustaining New Year's Resolutions With Your Hypnotherapist's Support

Surveys tell us that a New Year’s Resolution to lose some weight is one of the top 3 resolutions that people make every year. One of my clients came to me last January wanting to lose 40 lbs. In our initial two sessions I worked with her to establish her readiness to make changes and to craft her resolutions in a SMART form. Then we began to apply the power of hypnotherapy, affirmations, and guided visualization to support her weight loss actions. By June she was well on her way. By year end she was down 27 pounds. Her resolution for 2024 is now to lose the remaining 13 lbs. by May 15th and then maintain her healthy new body weight forever more.

The Power of Hypnotherapy: Affirmations and Visualization for Success

Part 3 of this series, explores

• The transformative power of hypnotherapy

• Positive Affirmations

• Visualization techniques in the context of achieving your New Year's resolutions

• Understanding how your hypnotherapist uses these techniques to help propel you toward your goals and foster lasting positive change

Hypnotherapy's Transformative Influence

• Breaking Through Mental Barriers: Hypnotherapy serves as a potent tool for breaking through mental barriers that may hinder progress in achieving resolutions. By inducing a state of deep relaxation, hypnotherapy enables access to your subconscious mind, where ingrained patterns of thinking and limiting beliefs reside

• The Subconscious Mind: The subconscious mind plays a crucial role in shaping behavior. Hypnotherapy allows you to explore and reshape subconscious thought patterns, promoting a more positive and constructive mindset that supports goal achievement

• Challenging Negative Beliefs: Through guided hypnotherapy sessions, you can identify and challenge negative beliefs that may be rooted in past experiences or self-doubt. This process is essential for creating a mental environment conducive to success.

Understanding Affirmations

In my hypnotherapy practice I include the use of positive affirmations as an integral part of the process.

Affirmations are statements about yourself, your thoughts, beliefs and behaviors as you want them to be. They use positive, constructive words to state what you intend to be true when your have completed a personal change goal such as a New Year’s Resolution.

The word ‘affirm’ means to make firm. You can use written affirmations to make a goal or belief firm in your subconscious mind and bring it into forceful alignment with your conscious desire. Affirmations are a vehicle for change, for transformation, in your life.

Crafting Effective Positive Affirmations

Affirmations are written in the present tense as if the statements are true now. They usually begin with the words ‘I’ or ‘My’ and include positive feelings or actions. Here is an easy six step process you can use when crafting positive affirmations that will support achieving your New Year’s Resolutions:

1. Find a quiet, peaceful place where you can relax and work without distraction for a least 20 minutes

2.  Using a simple sheet of paper or notebook, consider and jot down several of your current issues, problems and goals for change

3. Select an issue that is important to you to work on first. Refer to part 2 in this series and render that issue as a SMART New Year’s Resolution

4. Write out some statements beginning with ‘I’ or ‘My’ and affirming your desired state/goal as true. Write them in the present tense, using positive feeling and action words. Keep going until you have seven to ten statements to work with

5. Read your statements out loud and notice which ones resonate strongly  and feel the most powerful and authentic for you

6. Pick the top three statements to use in beginning your daily affirmation practice in support of your New Year’s Resolutions

When I work with you on achieving your New Year’s Resolutions we use my book, New Power in Affirmations, to help you craft effective affirmations and establish a daily affirmation practice that powerfully supports your goals. I encourage my clients to write their affirmations in longhand every evening before going to sleep.

Instilling Confidence Through Positive Affirmations

Positive affirmations, when integrated into hypnotherapy sessions, act as powerful catalysts for change. Here's how they work in tandem with hypnotherapy:

• Repetition and Reinforcement: Positive affirmations are repeated during hypnotherapy sessions to reinforce desired beliefs. Consistent repetition helps embed these affirmations in the subconscious, aligning the mind with the pursuit of resolutions.

• Cultivating Self-Belief: Hypnotherapy instills confidence by incorporating affirmations that cultivate self-belief. As you repeat and internalize these positive statements, you develop a stronger sense of self-efficacy and resilience.

• Aligning with Goals: Crafting affirmations that align with specific New Year’s Resolution goals ensures that the subconscious is focused on the desired outcomes. This alignment enhances motivation and commitment.

Visualization and Guided Imagery: Creating a Mental Blueprint

Visualization and guided imagery are powerful techniques employed in hypnotherapy to create a mental blueprint for achieving and sustaining your New Year’s Resolutions.

• Vivid Imagery of Success: Hypnotherapy sessions can guide you to vividly imagine yourself successfully achieving your resolutions. This mental rehearsal enhances motivation and primes the mind for success.

• Emotional Connection: Visualization allows you to connect with the emotional aspects of your goals. The positive emotions associated with success become powerful motivators, driving sustained effort.

• Overcoming Challenges: Through guided imagery, hypnotherapy helps you visualize overcoming challenges you may encounter on your resolution journey. This proactive visualization equips you with mental strategies for resilience.

Summary:

Hypnotherapy, when integrated with positive affirmations and visualization techniques, becomes a dynamic force in the pursuit of New Year's Resolutions. By breaking through mental barriers, instilling confidence, and creating a vivid mental blueprint for success, you are empowered to navigate your New Year’s Resolution journey with clarity and purpose.

Having harnessed the transformative power of hypnotherapy, join me in Part 4 as we craft a blueprint for your transformative journey—setting the stage for New Year’s Resolutions that not only endure but flourish.

If you are considering working with me as your hypnotherapist, I am available for a free 30 minute consultation for new clients. Please call me at 818-929-4944 or go to cindaroffman.com to book a free consultation.

Sincerely,

Cinda

HypnoNews and Resosurces

For some additional ideas specifically focused on setting and crafting positive goal affirmations, please see the following:

https://rhythmsofplay.com/why-i-turn-my-goals-into-affirmations/

Part 2 - Ready-Set-Go: Achieving and Sustaining New Year's Resolutions With Your Hypnotherapists Support

Part 2-Understanding New Year's Resolutions-Crafting Meaningful Goals

Late last fall my husband and I got the exciting and joyful news that our daughter was engaged. A month or two later, while we were attending a 2 day business planning seminar, Burt surprised me by declaring to the whole room that his #1 goal for 2024 is to finance and host an extraordinary wedding event for our daughter in Dallas, Texas by June, 2024. Clearly, Burt has reached the readiness stage of the 5 stage theory of change model and apparently he knows something about the SMART methodology for better goal setting.

Part 2 of this series, delves into the intricate world of New Year's resolutions. Understanding the dynamics, categories, and success factors behind resolutions is crucial for crafting meaningful and achievable goals that stand the test of time.

Understanding New Year's Resolutions

As the calendar turns a new page, the tradition of setting New Year’s Resolutions comes into focus. Resolutions are promises we make to ourselves—a commitment to personal growth, well-being, and fulfillment. To embark on a successful resolution journey, it's essential to gain a comprehensive understanding of this tradition.

Categories of Resolutions: Navigating Diverse Realms

Resolutions can span various aspects of life, reflecting the multifaceted nature of personal growth. Categories include:

• Health and Wellness: Resolutions related to physical health, exercise, nutrition, and overall well-being.

• Personal Development: Goals focusing on self-improvement, skill enhancement, and lifelong learning.

• Relationships: Resolutions centered around building and nurturing meaningful connections with others.

• Career and Finance: Aspirations for professional growth, financial stability, and career satisfaction.

Understanding the diverse categories allows individuals to tailor resolutions to their unique needs and priorities.

Types and Forms: Decoding Success Factors

Resolutions come in various types and forms, and understanding their success factors is key to achieving lasting change.

• Success Rates: Research suggests that resolutions related to health and well-being tend to have higher success rates. Understanding this can influence the selection of resolutions based on personal priorities and the likelihood of success.

• Abandonment Patterns: Statistics indicate that a significant number of resolutions are abandoned within the first few weeks of the year. Recognizing common abandonment patterns can help individuals develop strategies to overcome challenges and persevere.

• SMART Resolutions: Introducing the concept of SMART goals—Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, and Time-bound. Crafting resolutions with these criteria enhances clarity, feasibility, and accountability.

Crafting SMART New Year's Resolutions

Crafting resolutions that adhere to the SMART framework is a practical and effective approach. This methodology transforms vague aspirations into concrete, achievable objectives.

• Specific: Clearly define the resolution. Instead of a broad goal like "exercise more," specify "jog for 30 minutes three times a week."

• Measurable: Establish quantifiable criteria to track progress. For instance, instead of "eat healthier," set a measurable target like "consume five servings of vegetables daily."

• Achievable: Ensure the resolution is realistic and attainable. Setting an achievable goal promotes a sense of accomplishment and motivates further progress.

• Relevant: Align the resolution with personal values and long-term objectives. A relevant goal resonates with individual aspirations, increasing commitment.

• Time-bound: Set a timeframe for achieving the resolution. A deadline creates a sense of urgency and helps manage time effectively. For example, "lose 10 pounds in three months."

 Practical Tips for Crafting SMART Resolutions:

• Reflect on Values: Consider what truly matters to you. Resolutions aligned with core values are more likely to be pursued with enthusiasm.

• Prioritize Realistic Goals: While ambition is commendable, resolutions should be grounded in reality. Gradual progress is sustainable and fosters a positive mindset.

• Break Down Complex Goals: If a resolution is complex, break it down into smaller, manageable steps. Each small achievement contributes to the overall success.

Summary:

Understanding the diverse categories and success factors of New Year’s Resolutions, coupled with the practical crafting of SMART goals, lays the foundation for a purposeful resolution journey.

Having gained insight into the world of New Year’s Resolutions, join me in Part 3 as we explore the transformative power of hypnotherapy and how positive affirmations and visualization techniques synergize with resolutions, propelling you toward your goals.

If you are considering working with me as your hypnotherapist, I am available for a free 30 minute consultation for new clients. Please or call me at 818-929-4944 go to cindaroffman.com to book a free consult.

Sincerely,

Cinda

HypnoNews and Resources

For a fascinating and informative article about the history and evolution of New Year’s Resolutions, please see the following:

https://www.history.com/news/the-history-of-new-years-resolutions

Ready-Set-Go: Achieving and Sustaining New Year’s Resolutions With Your Hypnotherapist’s Support

My husband, Burt, was on his daily walk last week. He met a new neighbor, Jack.  They started talking. Burt wished him Happy New Year and asked him if he had any New Year’s resolutions.  Jack replied that he used to think he would be dead by 60. He has already survived cancer, a heart attack and COPD.  Now that he is past that, his resolution for 2024 is to stay healthy and enjoy another year of life.  Burt asked me how I would work with a client presenting with the goals to stay healthy and enjoy life.  I began to think about the New Year and setting goals and achieving them. 

Upcoming throughout January is a four part series that addresses these issues. Beginning with this part 1, the series will cover:

• Part 1: Readiness: The Gateway to Resolution Success explores the foundational concept of readiness, unveiling the stages theory of change and its pivotal role in initiating and sustaining transformative resolutions.

• Part 2: Understanding New Year's Resolutions: Crafting Meaningful Goals delves into the intricate world of resolutions, categorizing them, decoding success factors, and providing insights into crafting resolutions that are not only meaningful but also achievable.

• Part 3: Power of Hypnotherapy: Affirmations and Visualization for Success unlocks the transformative influence of hypnotherapy, positive affirmations, and visualization techniques, offering a dynamic approach to break through mental barriers and reinforce positivity.

• Part 4: Blueprint for Transformative Resolutions: Achieve and Sustain unveils a comprehensive blueprint for your transformative journey. With a synergy of readiness, SMART goals, hypnotherapy, positive affirmations, and visualization, this blueprint sets the stage for resolutions that endure and flourish.

As we stand on the cusp of a new year, the air is filled with the promise of positive change and personal growth. In this transformative series, you are invited on a journey of self-discovery and empowerment, guided by the expertise of a certified professional hypnotherapist.

Please join me and embark on this journey with an open mind and a readiness for positive change. Each installment builds upon the last, guiding you through a transformative journey that transcends mere resolutions—it's about embracing a life of purpose, growth, and fulfillment. Ready, set, go—your transformative journey awaits.

Part 1: Readiness: The Gateway to Resolution Success

As the New Year approaches, the promise of transformation beckons, and the first step on this journey is readiness. We explore the critical role readiness plays in successfully achieving New Year's resolutions, delving into the 5 stage theory of change and how hypnotherapists, with their unique skills, foster the positive mindset essential for success.

The Significance of Readiness: Unlocking the 5 Stage Theory of Change

Readiness is not a singular moment but a dynamic process rooted in the 5 Stage Theory of Change. This theory identifies stages individuals go through when contemplating and making changes in their lives. At its core, the concept of readiness revolves around the acknowledgment that individuals must be prepared, both mentally and emotionally, for meaningful and lasting change.

1. Precontemplation: At this stage, individuals may not be aware or have not yet acknowledged the need for change. Readiness begins to emerge when there is a subtle recognition of the status quo's limitations.

2. Contemplation: In this stage, individuals actively consider the need for change but may still grapple with ambivalence. The emergence of readiness is marked by a growing desire to explore possibilities for transformation.

3. Preparation: Readiness solidifies during the preparation stage. Individuals actively seek information, make plans, and envision the steps required for change. This is a crucial stage where commitment begins to take shape.

4. Action: The action stage sees the initiation of specific behaviors aimed at achieving the desired change. Readiness is now translated into tangible steps as individuals actively implement their resolutions.

5. Maintenance: Readiness continues to play a vital role during the maintenance stage. It involves the ongoing commitment and effort required to sustain the changes made, ensuring that they become enduring aspects of one's lifestyle.

 Why Readiness Matters:

The significance of readiness lies in its ability to act as a catalyst for positive change. Research consistently supports the idea that individuals who are psychologically and emotionally prepared for change are more likely to initiate and maintain new behaviors. A study published in the "Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology" found that interventions targeting readiness increased the likelihood of positive outcomes.

The Expertise of Hypnotherapists: Crafting the Foundation for Change

Hypnotherapists bring a specialized set of skills to the table, uniquely positioned to foster the readiness crucial for resolution success.

1. Building Trust and Rapport: Establishing trust is fundamental. Hypnotherapists create a safe and supportive environment where clients feel comfortable exploring their desires for change.

2. Active Listening: Through active listening, hypnotherapists tune into the client's narrative, identifying cues that signal readiness. This empathetic connection facilitates the exploration of goals and challenges.

3. Addressing Limiting Beliefs: Hypnotherapists specialize in identifying and addressing limiting beliefs that may hinder readiness. By delving into the subconscious, they help reshape negative thought patterns, creating a fertile ground for positive change.

4. Inducing Relaxation and Focus: Hypnotherapy techniques induce a state of deep relaxation, fostering mental clarity and focus. This heightened awareness is pivotal for individuals to navigate through the stages of change with a clear vision of their resolutions.

 How Hypnotherapists Foster Readiness:

Hypnotherapists employ various techniques to foster readiness in their clients, aligning with the principles of the 5 stage theory of change.

1. Motivational Enhancement: By enhancing motivation, hypnotherapists help clients move from contemplation to preparation. Motivational enhancement techniques include exploring the benefits of change and the consequences of maintaining the status quo.

2. Visualization and Goal Setting: Utilizing visualization and guided imagery, hypnotherapists help clients vividly imagine their desired outcomes. This process serves as a powerful motivational tool, propelling individuals towards the preparation and action stages.

3. Positive Affirmations: Introducing positive affirmations during hypnotherapy sessions reinforces readiness by cultivating a positive mindset. Affirmations challenge self-doubt and build confidence, aligning clients with the belief that change is not only possible but within their control.

 Summary:

In this exploration of readiness, we've unveiled the dynamic process embedded in the 5 stage theory of change. Recognizing readiness as a catalyst for positive transformation, we've also explored how hypnotherapists, with their expertise, can play a pivotal role in fostering this crucial mindset. As you embark on your New Year’s Resolution journey, remember that readiness is the key that unlocks the door to lasting change.

Now that we've laid the groundwork for change, join me in Part 2 as we delve into the multifaceted world of New Year's Resolutions, providing insights to help you craft meaningful and achievable goals.

If you are considering working with me as your hypnotherapist, I am available for a free 30 minute consultation for new clients. Go to cindaroffman.com to book a free consult or call me at 818-929-4944

SIncerely,

Cinda

HypnoNews and Resources

For additional perspective on the theory of change, readiness, and why New Year’s Resolutions frequently fail, please see the following:

https://www.verywellmind.com/why-new-years-resolutions-fail-6823972

The Gift of Calm: Hypnotherapy Solutions for Holiday Overwhelm

As the holiday season approaches, the air is filled with excitement, festive decorations, and the promise of joy. However, for many, this time of year can also bring a sense of overwhelming stress and anxiety.

Last year, at the beginning of December, Pauline came to me wanting to lose weight and feel her best at her upcoming family and friends holiday party.  After her first visit we realized that there was more going on.  She was completely overwhelmed with her job, her young daughters, a busy husband and the accumulating pile of social obligations for the holiday season.  The first thing we did was come up with affirmations.  Her first affirmation:  I am my priority.  Since then, many clients have used this affirmation in conjunction with learning to cope with chronic overwhelm.  We also came up with effective strategies to help her manage her overwhelm in the moment

Pauline realized that once she looked at exactly what her priorities were, she was able to let go of the unimportant things in order to have time for the what mattered.  She got help with the girls after school, she no longer left work to take them home.  The au pair got them started with their homework, started dinner and started laundry.  When Pauline got home, she was able to leave work at work and focus on being with her family.  She was finally able to let go of some of the weight because she was no longer so stressed and eating for comfort.

As with everything in hypnotherapy, intention is key in making changes.  Just by understanding overwhelm, coming up with strategies to deal with it and utilizing hypnotherapy, holiday calm is possible.  I’ve also included some tips for successfully surviving holiday eating challenges (with thanks to Dr. Gail Jackson).

Understanding Holiday Overwhelm

Holiday overwhelm is more than just a fleeting feeling of stress. It's a complex interplay of emotional, social, and personal factors that can dampen the joyous spirit of the season. From the pressure of social obligations to the hustle and bustle of shopping, the sources of overwhelm are diverse and can impact individuals differently.

What Causes Overwhelm?

1. Social Expectations: The desire to meet societal expectations and create the perfect holiday experience can lead to overwhelming stress.

2. Time Constraints: Balancing work, family, and social commitments during a condensed holiday season can contribute to a feeling of being stretched too thin.

3. Financial Pressures: Gift-giving, travel, and hosting expenses can strain budgets, adding an extra layer of stress.

4. Emotional Triggers: Past holiday experiences or family dynamics can evoke strong emotions, contributing to overwhelm.

5. Perfectionism: Striving for perfection in decorations, meals, and events can create unattainable standards, and consequently, stress.

When You Are Feeling Overwhelmed

You might experience holiday season overwhelm in a chronic form that seems to go on for days on end. You might also feel overwhelmed in the moment or in specific situations. Here are some practical strategies you can use your self during the holiday season to cope with overwhelm in the moment.

1. Take time out to breathe and refocus

2. Get a change of scenery

3. Go for a short walk

4. Change your self-talk to positive statements and expectations

5. Take care of yourself first

6. Let go of things that don’t matter

7. Share your feelings with a friend, family member, or colleague to gain support

8. Avoid alcohol, drugs and junk food which are known contributors to depression

How Hypnotherapy Can Help    

Hypnotherapy provides a unique and effective approach to managing holiday season overwhelm.  By tapping into the power of the subconscious mind, hypnotherapy can address the root causes of stress, reframe negative thought patterns, and promote a sense of calm and balance.

1. Stress Reduction: Hypnotherapy techniques such as progressive relaxation and guided imagery can induce a deep state of relaxation, helping individuals manage stress more effectively.

2. Cognitive Restructuring: Hypnotherapy can challenge and reframe negative thought patterns, promoting a more positive and realistic mindset.

3. Time Management: Hypnotherapy can assist in improving time management skills, enabling individuals to prioritize tasks and create a more balanced holiday schedule.

The Role of Gratitude

Cultivating gratitude is a powerful antidote to overwhelm. Amidst the chaos, taking time to reflect on the positive aspects of the season can shift the focus from stressors to the blessings that surround us. Hypnotherapy sessions can incorporate gratitude exercises, fostering a mindset of appreciation and reducing the impact of stressors.

Fostering a Positive Mindset

A positive mindset during the holidays involves:

1. Realistic Expectations: Accepting that perfection is unattainable and embracing the imperfect beauty of the season.

2. Mindful Presence: Being present in the moment, savoring the joy of shared experiences, and letting go of worries about the past or future.

3. Self-Compassion: Treating oneself with kindness and understanding, acknowledging that it's okay not to do everything perfectly.

4. Healthy Boundaries: Setting boundaries to protect personal time and well-being, ensuring a more balanced and enjoyable holiday season.

Holiday Party Eating Tips

1. Eat small meals throughout the day and before attending a holiday gathering

2. Drink 1 glass of water for every alcoholic drink 

3. ALWAYS leave something on your plate…..The clean plate club is no more!

4. Use the smallest plate available for your nibbles

Conclusion

This holiday season, consider giving yourself the gift of calm. Through hypnotherapy, you can transform the way you experience the holidays, managing overwhelm, and fostering a positive mindset. Embrace the joy of the season, cultivate gratitude, and let the gift of calm be your guide to a more meaningful and fulfilling holiday celebration.

If you or someone you know is feeling the weight of holiday season overwhelm, consider hypnotherapy and the transformative power of your subconscious mind to help you through the holidays and beyond. 

I am available for a free 30 minute consultation for new clients. Please go to cindaroffman.com to book a free consult or call me at 818-929-4944

Sincerely,

Cinda

HypnoNews and Resources

Modern brain research has led to the creation of a new field known as neuropsychology and therapists known as neurodivergent therapists. For a neurodivergent therapist’s enlightening perspective on coping with holiday season overwhelm, please see the following:

https://www.verywellmind.com/as-a-neurodivergent-therapist-cope-holidays-8406224

For up to date statistics on the prevalence and distribution of holiday season stress in America please see the following:

https://www.apa.org/news/press/releases/2023/11/holiday-season-stress  

Breaking Through Writer's Block with Hypnotherapy

I often work with creative professionals in various disciplines including writers. A common issue that writers face is writer's block. Whether you're an author, a journalist, a content creator, or a student, finding yourself in the clutches of writer's block it can be frustrating and discouraging.

One of my clients was a very successful author in her genre.  This enabled her to move to her dream home in Westlake Village.  Once she arrived, however, she found herself unable to complete her next novel.  She came to me in desperation, her publisher was impatient for her next bestseller.  We looked at what was going on and she realized that she had not even set up her desk to write.  I encouraged her to organize her space so that she could write when she was ready.  We came up with a set of affirmations that she focused on daily.   In hypnotherapy, she visualized writing and completing her book.  After a few sessions, she was good to go and completed her novel.

Understanding Writer's Block

Writer's block is a condition where individuals experience an obstacle in generating new ideas or expressing themselves in writing. It can present or be experienced as

• Inability to start writing

• Feeling creatively stagnant, having no ideas

• Stuck on a paragraph or section

• Stuck in the edit/rewrite process

• Struggling to complete a writing project or assignment

Causes of Writer's Block include

• Fears of exposure, criticism, rejection, repeating past failure, success

• Stress, external pressures and deadlines

• Anxiety and self-doubt

• Unproductive habits like procrastination, perfectionism, or excessive self-criticism

• Lack of inspiration or motivation

• Physiological distractors or inhibitors (pain, illness)

• Lack of necessary skills, tools, or training

How Hypnotherapy Can Help

Hypnotherapy is a therapeutic technique that aims to access the subconscious mind, which often holds the key to resolving deep-seated issues. Through hypnosis, individuals can achieve a state of heightened focus and relaxation, making it easier to bypass the conscious mind's barriers and connect with their inner creativity.

Here's how hypnotherapy can be a powerful tool for overcoming writer's block:

1. Reducing Stress and Anxiety

Hypnotherapy is excellent for addressing the emotional factors that contribute to writer's block, such as fear, anxiety and self-doubt. By inducing a deep state of relaxation, hypnosis can help you manage stress and build self-confidence, making it easier to approach your writing with a clear mind.

2. Breaking Through Mental Barriers

Through guided imagery and suggestion, anchoring, and affirmations practices, I can help you identify and confront the mental blocks that are preventing you from writing. This process allows you to reframe your thoughts and beliefs, replacing self-limiting beliefs with positive and productive ones.

3. Changing Unproductive Habits

Procrastination and perfectionism are habits which our subconscious mind uses to protect us from fears and threats, real or imagined. When it comes to writing these habits can block you from getting started or painfully delay your progress. Hypnotherapy is a proven tool for helping you to change unproductive habits that you want to change.

4. Boosting Creativity and Inspiration

Hypnotherapy can stimulate your creativity by helping you access the vast reservoir of ideas and experiences stored in your subconscious. This can lead to a surge of inspiration, allowing you to break free from your creative rut.

5. Improving Concentration and Focus

Enhanced concentration and focus are essential for productive writing. Hypnotherapy can teach you techniques (exercise, adjusting writing environment, sleep rhythm, free writing, journaling) to sharpen your mind and eliminate distractions, helping you maintain your creative flow.

In Summary

When you can’t get words on paper, your subconscious mind may be creating obstacles to block your writing  in one way or another. Writer's block doesn't have to be a permanent obstacle. Hypnotherapy, with its ability to tap into the subconscious mind and address the underlying causes of writer's block, offers a promising solution. With the power of your own mind, you can break free from the chains of writer's block and experience the joy of expressing your thoughts and ideas freely. Hypnotherapy is a safe and effective approach to help you unlock your creative potential and overcome the barriers that stand between you and your writing goals.

If you're struggling with writer's block, I am available for a free 30 minute consultation for new clients. Please go to cindaroffman.com to book a free consult or call me at 818-929-4944.

Sincerely,

Cinda

HypnoNews and Resources

For additional information and advice on writer’s block and how to overcome it, here are two articles that may be of interest.

https://gizmodo.com/the-10-types-of-writers-block-and-how-to-overcome-them-5844988

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/a-world-of-creativity/202203/how-to-overcome-writers-block

Just 1 MORE Thing: Hypnotherapy for Weight Loss in the Home Stretch

Last month we talked about what 1 thing might be holding you back or keeping you from living your best life.  For many, it can be those stubborn 10 – 15 pounds that you just can’t lose.  You may have had great success with a weight management program, Weight Watchers, Lindora or any of the others out there but there are still those stubborn last few pounds. 

Every year I help clients who had been very successful in losing a large amount of weight but found themselves stuck, making no further progress, as they entered the home stretch toward their final goal.

One client had a trip of a lifetime planned and wanted to be at her goal weight for purchasing clothes and supplies for the trip. Here is how she described her challenge in our initial session. “Through diets and exercising I have lost about 30 pounds over the past 10 months. I’m about 12 pounds away from my final goal but I’ve stopped making progress. I’m not gaining, but not losing, just bouncing   between 145 and 142. I know that I have lost almost all the weight I set out to lose. I feel like I deserve a reward for that. Also, I’m having trouble accepting when I’m satisfied.”

After listening to her weight loss journey, we came up with a strategy – what specific actions could she take to get off those stubborn 12 pounds.  She decided to decrease her caloric intake by reducing her portions.  She already knew what to eat, she just needed to eat less of it.  She increased her outdoor activity, not being near food makes it harder to snack.   We then came up with a set of affirmations that could help her get across that finish line.  Her first one?  “I weigh 130 pounds.”   We also included affirmations about moving more outside and eating less.  It’s important to state clearly what your goals are.  I gave her a copy of her hypnosis session so that she could listen to it for added motivation whenever she wanted.

After working together, those pounds came off and she was able to keep them off.  She had a great trip and continues to successfully maintain her goal weight.

Hypnotherapy can help in the final stretch of weight loss.

If you are stuck in the home stretch toward your weight loss goal and you would like to explore how Hypnotherapy may help, please go to cindaroffman.com to book a free consult or give me a call at 818-929-4944.

Sincerely,

Cinda

Just 1 Thing to Make a Lasting Positive Difference in Your Life Now

In the cycle of our lives, change is constant. But some changes we want and others we may just get. Is there 1 change you want or maybe need to make a lasting, positive change in your life now? Is there something that you have been avoiding? Something that you know you need to do but don’t really want to?

If you are having trouble doing that 1 thing, your subconscious thoughts, attitudes and beliefs could be creating the resistance that is holding you back. Hypnotherapy may be able to help.

Your subconscious is 90% (or more) of your brain.  It may be what is keeping you from completing that book, taking that flight, losing that weight.

When John (not his real name) came to me for help with his fear of flying, it was affecting both his professional and personal life.  He had to travel for work and could only drive or take the train when he had an out of town or out of state meeting.  His co-workers and clients thought this was odd, only he knew the real reason.  His entire family lives a couple of flight connections away from California.  He would have to fly on a small plane for the last leg of his journey.  He didn’t want to freak out in front of his young son.  He missed his family, especially his elderly mother.

After several sessions, John was able to easily fly for work and pleasure.  He didn’t even panic when the small plane was stuck on the runway for hours. Last Thanksgiving, John took the time to thank me for my help in changing his life.

How did hypnotherapy help John?  First, we explored where his fear of flying came from.  Why did he have a fear of flying and was this fear rational?  After some discussion, he began to realize that there was no rational reason for his fear.  The plane would land safely, the doors would open and he would be okay.  We then came up with affirmations related to his fears.  A couple were:  “I feel safe in the airplane,” “I don’t have to be in control all the time.”  Each morning he read his affirmations and each evening he wrote them in his journal, The Power In Affirmations.   In hypnosis, I suggested that he see himself as a person who was comfortable on a plane and did not need to be in control all of the time.  I gave him a recording of the hypnosis that he could listen to if needed on the plane.

For John that 1 thing has made a huge difference in his life. 

If you would like some help with your 1 thing please go to cindaroffman.com to book a free consult or give me a call at 818-929-4944.

Sincerely,

Cinda

HYPNONEWS AND RESOURCES

For a well written article concerning the benefits of hypnotherapy and how it may help you to overcome your resistance to the positive change you want, please see the following:

https://www.wellness-institute.org/blog/break-through-client-resistance-with-hypnotherapy

Insomnia and Hypnotherapy

A few nights ago I went to bed an hour later than my usual routine and fell asleep thinking about the busy day ahead of me. Several hours later, around 3:00 a.m., I woke up with my mind in a whirl of stress and worry. What if tomorrow goes wrong? What if I forget something important? What will be the outcome and impact of the upcoming election? What if there is a power failure tomorrow and the internet is down? When will the pandemic ever end? What if I can’t get back to sleep now?

Insomnia is defined as difficulty getting to sleep or staying asleep long enough to feel refreshed the next morning. Some common symptoms of insomnia include:

·        Being awake for long periods at night

·        Not being able to fall asleep

·        Waking up several times during the night

·        Waking up very early and being unable to get back to sleep

·        Feeling tired and groggy the next morning

·        Finding it difficult to concentrate or function properly

·        Feeling irritable

Insomnia is a significant problem for many of my clients.  For some it is debilitating, for others it is an annoyance.  When it becomes a significant problem, we can address it effectively through a few focused hypnotherapy sessions.  

We start by developing an evening ritual.  What makes you feel relaxed and restful?  I usually suggest cutting out violent television and the news close to bedtime.  Watching a comedy or reading are good activities for just before bed.  It’s important to stick to a ritual so that your mind and body become accustomed to knowing that it is bedtime. You will get a personalized recording that you can play the help to drift off to sleep easily. You will also develop a personal anchor to your naturally relaxed state that you can use to get back to sleep if needed.

As I lay in bed at 3:00 unable to sleep, I was clearly experiencing an episode of insomnia. I decided to take my own advice to my insomnia clients:  Focus on your anchor, your special place that always makes you feel good, positive and happy.  I went to my favorite beach in my head and imagined sitting there with my son and grandson.  I remembered what time of day it was, what the temperature was, the sounds and the smells of that special day.  Before I knew it, the sun was peeking through the window and I had had a good night’s sleep after all.

If you would like some tools and training to help you get a good night’s sleep, please call 818-929-4944 to arrange for a free, private, personal, online consultation.

New Year Reflections? The Reflection Framework and Hypnotherapy - 6 Key Questions

The Jewish High Holy Days concluded last week.  Rosh Hashanah is the Jewish New Year.  For the 10 days between Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur, we reflect on what we did in the past year, ask forgiveness for our missteps, and set intentions for doing better in the year to come.

The process is somewhat like the initial session that you would experience as a new hypnotherapy client. We begin by reflecting and identifying change goals, move to prioritizing the key issue or change that you want to make and then set the intention to transform your life for the better with your therapists guidance and help.

The last six months have been a unique time in our world.  How did you handle yourself?  Were you thoughtful and caring of others?  Were you able to take advantage of the extra time you had at home with your family?  Did you use the time to learn more about a topic you always wanted to explore?  Did you find ways to grow your business even in these difficult times?

It looks like we will be operating in pandemic mode for a while yet. How’s your mental state? Are you nervous? Are you depressed?  Do you need to connect with friends more? Now could be a great opportunity to reflect and set some intentions to make your life better while still staying safe and healthy?

A framework that I have found useful for reflection consists of these 6 key questions:

1.      What have I been thinking and feeling over the last 6 months since the pandemic began?

2.      What am I thinking and feeling today?

3.      What  do I want to be thinking and feeling when the pandemic is over for me

4.      What have I been doing over the last 6 months since the pandemic began

5.      What am I doing today?

6.      What do I want to be doing when the pandemic is over for me?

Set aside 20 minutes for reflection. Find a quiet, comfortable, place where will not be interrupted. Work through the 6 key questions in order. Record your thoughts in a journal or notebook, type them in your computer, or even record them on your cell phone.

Now go back and take a look at differences between what you have been thinking, feeling and doing over the last 6 months and what you want to be thinking, feeling and doing in the future.

You do not have to wait. You can begin the transformation you want now. If you would like some help, please call for a free private online video consultation. 818-929-4944

From Fear to Freedom - Lessons for Overcoming Virus Fear

Very early in my career as a hypnotherapist, I had a young woman as a client who came to me for fear of driving.  She was afraid to get a driver’s license.  Living in Southern California was becoming harder and harder for the recent college graduate.  She had to walk almost a mile to catch the bus to work and almost a mile to her office after she got off the bus.  She was literally afraid of driving the car – it seemed large and foreign to her and she was afraid she could not control it.  She was correct to be afraid of the car.  A car is considered a lethal weapon by law enforcement.  Part of what I helped her see is that yes, she may be afraid of the car and to see that fear as healthy.  She began to understand that even through her fear she could learn to manage and control the car and use it to her advantage.  She practiced and practiced.  She started first in a parking lot and then finally on the streets.  I am happy to report she passed her test on the first try and promptly drove herself across country to relocate in Nashville.  A very happy ending to the story!

What can we learn from this story today?  I think it translates very easily.  We are living in a fearful time.  We should be afraid of COVID-19 and its consequences.  We can channel that fear to be safe and healthy when interacting with others.  Here are some suggestions:

• Planning becomes very important.  In the same way that you wouldn’t drive on the wrong side of the street, you also should be careful interacting with people who may have or be carriers for COVID-19.  Does that mean you need to stay inside your home 24/7 and never see any people?  Probably not.

• .It is important to get out of your home.  Go for a walk in an area that is not busy.  Take a drive and enjoy the beautiful scenery all around us.

• It is also important to have safe personal interactions.  Call your friends, schedule a zoom happy hour,or social distance outside with separate food and drinks.  There are many alternatives available that can help keep you safe and healthy while still giving you social connections.  Your friends will probably appreciate your calling!

Ongoing fear, worry or distress of any kind can lead to debilitating, life limiting chronic anxiety and even related physical symptoms. If your fear becomes overwhelming, I can help.  I will listen, ask questions, and help you get information and gain understanding of your fears.  We will develop transformative affirmations that focus on the positive outcome that you desire. You will be motivated and empowered to take action on your desired new behaviors with confidence and growing competence as you enjoy more freedom and less worry to hold you back or slow you down.

You do not have to cure Covid or wait for a vaccine to move past the virus fear, reduce anxiety, and bring a greater feeling of hope, confidence and freedom into your daily life.

To learn more, go to my website https://www.cindaroffman.com and register for my next free, live Hypnotherapy Q & A – Fear and Anxiety.

Or, to see if we can work together to help you, call now to arrange for a free, private, online video consultation - 818-929-4944.

The Dog Ate My Focaccia - Coping with Stress and Anxiety

A few weeks ago, I wrote about my friend and neighbor, Judy, and her house full of adult children.  I talked about how she had decided to take advantage of this special time with them and embrace the opportunity to develop an adult relationship with her children and her daughter’s fiancé, Jon. I talked about how well it was working out.  That was a few weeks ago.  One evening the fiancé made a delicious focaccia as a treat after dinner.  He and Judy’s son, Mike, were setting up a projector and screen in the backyard to watch movies at night.  Meanwhile, Mike’s large greyhound decided to sample the focaccia cooling on the counter.  Jon was understandably angry that his hard work had been destroyed.  He went straight to bed and the night was ruined.  Good news, 24 hours later everyone is getting along again.

What can we learn from challenging situations?  Judy said that her kids learned to be more respectful of each other and each person’s needs.  Jon now is careful about where he leaves his baked goods to cool.  Mike is more conscious of where his dog is roaming.  Out of this situation, everyone learned to be more aware.

We are all in a challenging situation right now.  What can we each learn going forward?  Two important things I would encourage you all to consider are 1) taking care of yourself and 2) being willing to ask for help when needed.

Remember the airline analogy:  Put your own oxygen mask on first.  You can’t help someone else if you are passed out.  This translates directly into our lives right now.  Take care of your needs so that you can take care of others.  Put on your mask! Not only does it protect you but it also protects others.  What other self-care do you need right now?  Is it finding a good book to read? Going for a walk? Taking a nice long bath? Getting up a little earlier so you have some alone time?

If you find yourself in a place where you are having trouble coping, do not be afraid to ask for help.  I am here and seeing clients for online hypnotherapy.  If I cannot help you, I can help you find someone who can or maybe an online support group.  You do not have to go through this alone. You could arrange for you and a friend (or group of friends) to have a weekly zoom call.  Meet up with masks and social distancing outdoors.

Let’s look at this challenging situation and see what we can learn from it that will help us going forward.

Personal transformation through hypnotherapy offers an effective, comfortable and drug free choice for dealing with stress and anxiety, managing weight, changing habits, improving health, and achieving self-development goals. To schedule a free, private online consultation please call 1-818-929-4944.

Online Hypnotherapy vs. Hypnotherapy In-Office.

Hypnotherapy, whether in-office or live, online, always starts with you. It rests on the personal relationship between you and your therapist. Communication, compatibility and trust are the required foundation for that relationship. However, face to face meetings are not a necessary ingredient for a successful hypnotherapy experience.

 Does Hypnotherapy Work Virtually?

The short answer is yes. Before the pandemic many local clients came into my office for sessions but I’ve also been doing live, online, phone and video based sessions for years. Here is one very successful story of a client who was helped.   

The client was a manager for a large tech company in Silicon Valley who was required to travel for business.  Her finance also wanted to take her to Europe and South America for fun.  Problem?  She was afraid to fly because she was scared of people (or herself) vomiting.  This is actually not an uncommon fear.  Over a series of 6 sessions we figured out where that fear came from – an incident in her childhood - and worked to help her release that fear.  All sessions were conducted live, online and I never met her face to face.  She was able to easily travel for work and she and her boyfriend have now visited several countries.

Another successful client who was helped with online hypnotherapy actually lived locally. However, after a long day at the office, she wanted the freedom to do sessions while at home.  She was working on improving her health and landing her dream promotion at her company.  Through hypnotherapy and positive affirmations, she succeeded at both. Her promotion enabled her to work worldwide and have the flexibility she needed to be able to focus on her health.  

6 things that you can do to make your virtual therapy sessions more effective

1.      Consider using a therapist not in your area but who may be a good fit for your issue.  Virtually it doesn’t matter where the therapist actually is.

2.     Test the technology before your first scheduled session. Desktops, laptops, cell phones, with cameras all can work.

3.     Get to know your therapist by engaging in a pre-session consultation call.

4.     Choose and prepare your home environment so that you have a quiet, comfortable location.  Typically my clients use bedrooms or offices, for the hypnosis part they use a recliner, a bed or a couch.

5.     Schedule your session for a time when you will have control of your environment.  Make sure it is quiet and you know you will not be interrupted.

6.     During the session, focus on using verbal cues instead of non-verbal ones.  For example, your therapist may not know that a question or topic is making you nervous because she will not be able to see that your legs are fidgeting.   Be clear and honest with your therapist about what you are feeling. It will be harder for her to read non-verbal cues.

Here are a couple of articles if you’d like more information about online or virtual sessions:

Does Online Therapy Work? https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/what-mentally-strong-people-dont-do/201911/does-online-therapy-work

Virtual therapy: What is it? https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/virtual-therapy

 Why Your Shrink Wasn’t Offering Virtual Therapy Until Now https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2020/05/virtual-therapy-pandemic/611551/

Personal transformation through hypnotherapy offers an effective, comfortable and drug free choice for overcoming fears, changing habits, improving health, and achieving self-development goals. With online hypnotherapy you can access your personal hypnotherapist from the convenience of your home anywhere around the USA. To schedule a free, private online consultation please call 1-818-929-4944.