Yes, they are here – everywhere it seems. In the stores and in the neighborhoods as homes decorate with beautiful lights. How to survive? Here are a few tips that may help.

1. Choose your priorities. What really is important to you for the next few weeks? Making other people happy or having the courage to set boundaries? Take a few minutes before things get too hectic and really look at what you want to be doing for the holidays.

2. Take care of yourself. This will look different for each person but it starts with staying healthy, getting enough sleep, and eating sensibly. What self-care is important to you and how can you continue it through the holidays? This may also include not being hard on yourself if you don’t achieve everything you think you should. Set realistic goals of what you want to and can do.

3. Be realistic. What can you really expect from your family and friends? Enjoy what you are experiencing today. The past is past and new experiences and traditions can be exciting and fun.

4. Ask for help. It’s okay to ask for help from family and friends if you are feeling overwhelmed. They probably will be delighted to help decorate, shop, cook or even lend a sympathetic ear.

5. Breathe. We always forget to simply take a moment and take a deep breath. Focus on why you are doing what you are doing and as you breathe in remind yourself of those reasons.